I think I understand, DB.
Everyone is different and there are different things about each person that we fall in love with. Think of it this way - for those of you that have multiple pets or two or more children: you love the pets/children equally and unconditionally, but differently for their own unique characteristics/personality.
I have two friends that I wish I could take and combine their best qualities into one person because then I’d have pretty much have the perfect partner.
Most monogamous people pick the one person who is balanced in meeting the majority of their needs and wants. A lasting relationship can’t be entirely based on sex; there has to be the honesty, intimacy, emotional support, financial support, etc. to make the relationship last a lifetime. Let’s face it, we all get old, wrinkly, and our bodies change if we live long enough. Ask yourself: Who is the person in your life that you cannot live without? Would you still be there for them if they were in a terrible accident that left them paralyzed, disfigured, etc.?
As long as jealousy is not/does not become an issue and the people are secure and honest in their relationships to avoid hurt feelings, it could very well work to everyone involved’s benefit - as DB has so far described in his relationships. Plus, play time is fun; and DB got to check an item off his bucket list. [:P]
[reply][reply]Come on grumps, I’m a gentleman. I ain’t getting into sticky icky details. Let’s just say all three of us each got to try one specific thing they’d always wondered about. Everybody’s a winner.
Didn’t mean to offend. Was just wondering the logistics of it all.[/reply]
Hey give Grmps a break…it’s not easy typing and jerking off at the same time…[/reply]
Har har!!
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I had a threesome(me,my ex and another chick)once…it sounded good on paper but the reality is it just wasn’t for me…there wasn’t exactly a good level of security all the way around and it made things awkward…I know it’s all circumstantial but for me it ended up hurting my relationship with my gf in the long run…I think that type of situation needs to be thouroughly discussed and everyone needs to be on the same page if there is any hope of it working out…my personality ultimately doesn’t mesh with that sort of thing but I certainly don’t begrudge anyone who can pull it off…life is short,live it your way…
Yeah, same for me really except with my ex-wife. It’s a slippery slope for sure, if there are any jealousy issues. I respect the fuck out of anyone who can make this sort of thing work, because that person is stronger than me in some ways. I guess I’m just wired a little more vanilla than I used to wish I were! 
So here’s how I kicked off my Xmas:
So I’ve been looking on craigslist for a new room to rent and I come across an ad from my landlord saying 2 rooms to rent for $500 a month each. One guy already moved out and another is in the process of moving out. The latter was paying $500, but the other room is (or at least was) worth $800. I’m paying $475 for mine and he was talking about rent going up in a couple of months. So one of two things is happening; he’s either trying to kick me out without notice or he’s reducing the rent of the other one, which doesn’t make any sense because it’s big enough for two. Hence why it’s worth $800. He tried to get me and another person to split the bigger room and I don’t see why he would lower the price. He has no real reason to kick me out either.
I already have a plan though. I’m gonna have someone call him up and take a look at the room. If mine is one of the ones in question then we’re gonna have to have a little chat. If no one wants to do it in the next couple of days, then I’ll probably wind up confronting him, but I don’t wanna do that til I know for sure.
Anyways, Merry Xmas to all. It’s been a good one for me despite this drama.
So here’s how I kicked off my Xmas:
So I’ve been looking on craigslist for a new room to rent and I come across an ad from my landlord saying 2 rooms to rent for $500 a month each. One guy already moved out and another is in the process of moving out. The latter was paying $500, but the other room is (or at least was) worth $800. I’m paying $475 for mine and he was talking about rent going up in a couple of months. So one of two things is happening; he’s either trying to kick me out without notice or he’s reducing the rent of the other one, which doesn’t make any sense because it’s big enough for two. Hence why it’s worth $800. He tried to get me and another person to split the bigger room and I don’t see why he would lower the price. He has no real reason to kick me out either.
I already have a plan though. I’m gonna have someone call him up and take a look at the room. If mine is one of the ones in question then we’re gonna have to have a little chat. If no one wants to do it in the next couple of days, then I’ll probably wind up confronting him, but I don’t wanna do that til I know for sure.
Anyways, Merry Xmas to all. It’s been a good one for me despite this drama.
I don’t know how it works in CA, but I’m going out on a limb here and assuming you’re renting with a private owner. In NYC, you’re either rent stabilized or you’re not. Most of the time, if you are, it’s in a bldg of 40+ units and the rent barely goes up.
As a private owner, he reserves the right to raise the rent at any time, for any amount. True, legally, you can squat or go to court, but I would suggest you just move on. Private owners can be real pricks.
I flew on a plane (actually 4 planes) and did not have a panic attack.
The additional Rx worked wonders. Proper timing is critical.
Girlfriend has left me. It’s official. Came over this morning to collect her stuff with her stepbrother in tow. None of us spoke a word. No goodbyes. Tense situation.
Fuck.
OK, I’ll handle this one step at a time.
No, it’s not that we’re separating that’s so bad…it’s just, with the situation I’m in, there are going to repercussions in the future. And it’s not going to be pretty.
My drinking habits are out of control.
Join the club.
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You know a girl isn’t interested when you compliment her on her looks and she replies with “Awwww” hahaha. Just got “friendzoned”. God I hate that word too, so stupid. Not that I’m butthurt about it, if a girl doesnt like you in that way, cool. I just cant stop thinking about her.
You know a girl isn’t interested when you compliment her on her looks and she replies with “Awwww” hahaha
yeah as if your a kindergartener or one of the kids in the special drooler class that just professed love to a high schooler.
“awwwwwwwww he’s able to see how pretty I am and yet still he has no shot!”
I hate bitches like that!
After she hit me with an “awwwww” I would have hit her back with a “holy shit you fell for it! HAHAHAHA” cause at that point I know I am never going to get with that chick and I have no interest in sticking around while some other dude gets to nibble on her face and other smelly parts. We aren’t friends and I don’t want to be her friend if that’s how she reacts back to me. She isn’t better than me cause she’s pretty. She doesn’t deserve to be around me and if we are such good friends how come she won’t really care that I don’t come around anymore. Well, she will at first because there won’t be anyone readily available to stroke her ego.
Sorry for the Extra tirade but I really hate people like this.
maybe my views can help you stop thinking about this shallow bitch, XtRaterrestrial. Good luck!
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grmpysmrf
I hate bitches like that!
Like my (now) ex? Shallow, petty, arrogant and self important? I know the type.
“I’m pretty. I find it easy to gain employment because big firms require a quota of “hot office bitches” regardless of how shitty their work skills are or how unintelligent they may be”.
That bitch made $70,000 a year (plus bonuses) as a glorified “assistant” to some yuppie ass wipe at BMW. Yet she barely passed college - even though all she did some c grade “community development” course that a retard who wears a crash helmet to bed could have passed. She can turn on a computer and surf the net and use Microsoft word to type out a letter and that’s about it. Yet she has the gall to lecture me about my lack of employment?!?
Hey, realise this: you only got the job in the first place so that the creepy management guys (all married) can ogle over you all day to keep from feeling depressed about their own shitty existences. You do realise you’re the last thing they think of just before they cum, right?
Bitch, I did more in a year than you did you’re whole shitty life. You’re just a dumbass, stuck up whore who vilifies those you feel are “beneath” you because they may not be particularly “photogenic”.
“I really hate that girl at work”
“Why”
“She’s just…I dunno…fat and socially awkward. SHe’s 33 and doesn’t even have a boyfriend. I’ll bet she’s never even seen the inside of a gym. And she has this really fucking terrible hair cut. It’s embarrassing. And she has the worst B.O of any single person ever. And I have to work near her. I’m just gonna, like, make her life hell…”
“Gee. I guess she does deserve to be miserable if you put it like that…”
[crazy]
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Like my (now) ex? Shallow, petty, arrogant and self important? I know the type.
“I’m pretty. I find it easy to gain employment because big firms require a quota of “hot office bitches” regardless of how shitty their work skills are or how unintelligent they may be”.
That bitch made $70,000 a year (plus bonuses) as a glorified “assistant” to some yuppie ass wipe at BMW. Yet she barely passed college - even though all she did some c grade “community development” course that a retard who wears a crash helmet to bed could have passed. She can turn on a computer and surf the net and use Microsoft word to type out a letter and that’s about it. Yet she has the gall to lecture me about my lack of employment?!?
Hey, realise this: you only got the job in the first place so that the creepy management guys (all married) can ogle over you all day to keep from feeling depressed about their own shitty existences. You do realise you’re the last thing they think of just before they cum, right?
Bitch, I did more in a year than you did you’re whole shitty life. You’re just a dumbass, stuck up whore who vilifies those you feel are “beneath” you because they may not be particularly “photogenic”.
“I really hate that girl at work”
“Why”
“She’s just…I dunno…fat and socially awkward. SHe’s 33 and doesn’t even have a boyfriend. I’ll bet she’s never even seen the inside of a gym. And she has this really fucking terrible hair cut. It’s embarrassing. And she has the worst B.O of any single person ever. And I have to work near her. I’m just gonna, like, make her life hell…”
“Gee. I guess she does deserve to be miserable if you put it like that…”
[crazy][/reply]
Why didn’t she invite her coworker out for a day at the spa/a makeover/shopping?
Are you going to make the switch to dating chicks with brains vs. looks or to a more balanced chick with a little of both?
The outside can be polished to brilliance with a little cash/working out/nip-tuck/makeup/wardrobe, the inside core cannot. Either accept the inside the way it is or move on.
Why didn’t she invite her coworker out for a day at the spa/a makeover/shopping?
didn’t you see the first part of his post? because she’s “Shallow, petty, arrogant and self important…”
a more balanced chick with a little of both?
Definitely the way to go!! My wife is wonderful like this.
“She’s just…I dunno…fat and socially awkward. SHe’s 33 and doesn’t even have a boyfriend. I’ll bet she’s never even seen the inside of a gym. And she has this really fucking terrible hair cut. It’s embarrassing. And she has the worst B.O of any single person ever. And I have to work near her. I’m just gonna, like, make her life hell…”
yes, because a person that is like this is the epitome of paradise and deserves to suffer a little bit.
Damn, Olsen, How long did you put up with that horrible person?
If I were in this situation I would like to think I would’ve escorted her to the door, slapped her across the face and threw her ass out. paid whatever fine I’d have to based on the police showing up and citing me for violence.
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grmpysmrf
LOL! Thanks grmps. Normally I would troll a bitch if she’s gonna be a snob and thinks I’m beneath her, done it plenty of times. It’s different with this chick. We’re actually good friends and she’s a cool chick, I just thought why not, I’ll give it a whirl and hit on her, lets see how she reacts.
I can read.
It has more to do with his x not being smart and expecting her coworker to change by making the coworker’s life hell as opposed to actually facilitating the change she would like to see. Did she expect her coworker to quit her job vs. herself getting sacked for harassment?
I can read.
It has more to do with his x not being smart and expecting her coworker to change by making the coworker’s life hell as opposed to actually facilitating the change she would like to see. Did she expect her coworker to quit her job vs. herself getting sacked for harassment?
Beautiful people don’t get sacked Unless it’s for a raise (Badoom Chee) They will find a reason to fire an ugly person. Hell they’ll make up rules just to fire ugly people.
“Clap Clap Everybody gather 'round. I’ve got an announcement!! effective immediately, new office rules, you’re no longer able to be this percentage over your BMI cause you’re a health risk and we don’t want to have our image tarnished by hiring people that live unhealthy life styles… Um, Fat girl with bad haircut and stink problem… Yeah, I’m gonna need to see you in my office.”
Mooney, you’re lucky enough to work in a field that is so highly skilled that it doesn’t matter what you look like, just so long as you can perform the task. In everyday work it’s brutal out here for ugly people. any monkey can push buttons and employers want the most attractive ones cause it attracts business. Ugly people are being naturally selected out.
Wow, I just reread this last part and it’s brutal. I didn’t write that to suggest that you would be fired for being ugly (Especially since I don’t know what you look like). I wrote it to suggest that you don’t have to see that kind of shit go on because of your highly skilled job.
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grmpysmrf