I had a REALLY stupid thought pop in my head last night that for some reason made me giggle uncontrollably. Luckily I have a friend who likes to illustrate such things for people:
We’re living in a simulator, a hologram… Japanese physicists are on the verge of proving it through math… http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2522482/Is-universe-hologram-Physicists-believe-live-projection.html
We’re living in a simulator, a hologram… Japanese physicists are on the verge of proving it through math… http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2522482/Is-universe-hologram-Physicists-believe-live-projection.html
Pffft. I worked that out years ago. Scribbled down on a napkin but lost it at a kebab shop in Brunswick.
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We’re living in a simulator, a hologram… Japanese physicists are on the verge of proving it through math… http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2522482/Is-universe-hologram-Physicists-believe-live-projection.html
Pffft. I worked that out years ago. Scribbled down on a napkin but lost it at a kebab shop in Brunswick.[/reply]
Ha. I knew you had. that’s why I mentioned it.
So, I just came out to Facebook about my wife and I deciding to abandon monogamy as a concept that is relevant to our relationship. Moving towards an open/polyamorous dynamic. Nothing is wrong with our marriage, nothing missing or anything, just what we wanted to do and it has been fun and fulfilling for both of us. It’s been about two months since we came to this decision. Hence, my chiming in about OKCupid (just a little surprised no one called me out on that). We had a pretty awesome threesome with this dude she knows from one of the regional burning man events we go to, She has had a couple solo encounters, and we have been dating this wonderful girl we met on OKC for about a month now. Actually taking her home with us to meet my parents on Christmas Day. Facebook response has been overwhelmingly positive, and I am feeling really lucky right now. Oh, and I got a HUGE raise at work. Everything’s coming up Davely.
Nice. A threesome…haven’t gone there…I’m guessing everyone enjoyed it?
Just wondering with the threesome dude, was it just you two pummeling your wife or did you guys touch each other too?
I knew a couple who had that thing going. Worked out for them. Before, I would’ve been surprised, but they were really happy.
Come on grumps, I’m a gentleman. I ain’t getting into sticky icky details. Let’s just say all three of us each got to try one specific thing they’d always wondered about. Everybody’s a winner.
Love DIY swinger parties!
My wife actually said to me after we got home from our last date with the girl we’ve been seeing, that the best part of all of it has been getting to watch her fall in love with me just like she did.
Guys. I mean. Wow. That’s just the most amazing thing to hear. Compersion is the coolest fucking thing ever.
And Gunnar, we’re just dating around right now…
…the swinger parties have to wait until it is warm enough to go open up the lake house for the season…
Come on grumps, I’m a gentleman. I ain’t getting into sticky icky details. Let’s just say all three of us each got to try one specific thing they’d always wondered about. Everybody’s a winner.
Didn’t mean to offend. Was just wondering the logistics of it all.
That always works out.
[reply]Come on grumps, I’m a gentleman. I ain’t getting into sticky icky details. Let’s just say all three of us each got to try one specific thing they’d always wondered about. Everybody’s a winner.
Didn’t mean to offend. Was just wondering the logistics of it all.[/reply]
Hey give Grmps a break…it’s not easy typing and jerking off at the same time…
That always works out.
You’d be surprised. It works for a LOT of people I know. A lot more than you would ever imagine. I bet there are a bunch of people you know that have special friends, you just don’t know about it. Hell since I came out about it I have had a couple more people contact me and say “hey me too”. And it’s not like vanilla monogamy has a perfect track record of working out, not even half the time. So why not give it a go? I am under no illusion that it will be easy all the time, but so far the benefits have far far far outweighed the headaches
There is some show on Showtime called Polyamory…I tried watching it because I was interested in learning something about a sub-culture that I know nothing about…but the subjects were so annoying and lame that I couldn’t watch it…I couldn’t get through 10 minutes without wanting to punch one or all of them in the face…oh well…
I had a threesome(me,my ex and another chick)once…it sounded good on paper but the reality is it just wasn’t for me…there wasn’t exactly a good level of security all the way around and it made things awkward…I know it’s all circumstantial but for me it ended up hurting my relationship with my gf in the long run…I think that type of situation needs to be thouroughly discussed and everyone needs to be on the same page if there is any hope of it working out…my personality ultimately doesn’t mesh with that sort of thing but I certainly don’t begrudge anyone who can pull it off…life is short,live it your way…
Yeah, it ain’t for everybody.
I’m curious,Davelybob…with these other participants is there actual love involved or is it more of a sex thing…I mean I know you obviously love your wife but what about the others…I mean,maybe it isn’t so deep as to where love is involved and maybe it isn’t just all about the booty…is it somewhere in the middle? Just curious…
Well there is a connection as friends for sure, it’s not anonymous sex with strangers stuff. We have to like and respect the people we fool around with, which means knowing them well enough to be reasonably sure we mesh. And yeah, there are real feelings developing with the girl we are dating, all around. Could very easily become a long term thing. She’s not “officially” our girlfriend for a few reasons, like we don’t want to rush into anything (because people can get hurt that way) and she’s not comfortable being completely out to all of her family about it. But like I said she is going to meet my folks, she’s already met our niece (who was completely amused by all three of us being all googoo eyed at each other over dinner), and we have met her sister and their friend from way back. We’ll be meeting her daughter soon, she’s not comfortable laying it out for her so we are just her friends around her, but she knows the kid is smart enough to fill in the blanks herself. Every relationship is different, and that doesn’t change just because you have multiple relationships. So yeah, basically we have friends with benefits, one of which is becoming more than that. And you know, if it gets serious, the three of us can be committed and still have things on the side. Hell, my wife is trying to reconnect with the couple she was dating when I met her (that is in the baby steps stage as I burned that bridge pretty thoroughly a few years back because at the time I WASN’T ready for this and freaked out about it) and it turns out that our ladyfriend had been playing with the guy from that couple before she met us. And she still can. There is definitely a lot of angles to consider when you get into this kind of arrangement. But like I said, if you are the kind of person who can make it work, all the work pays off in multiples too.
Interesting…sounds exhausting haha…but more power to you,man…