The final shot of Bones at the end of that was excellent.
Here’s a serious one. I’m having a conflict with a woman. So I met her 2 months ago and we hit it off the first night we talked on the phone. A couple weeks later we get a hotel and get down to business. Things are going good but then we have a fight. Mind you we weren’t together. We make up after I tell her how much she means to me.
Things are going good until last weekend. On the way home from the flea market in folsom she mentions her 5 year old nephew with special needs is coming over. I kinda mention that I don’t have much patience for kids and that really bothered her. After waking up from a nap it’s apparent that she’s not happy with me. I lay in bed next to her after she says she’s not sure if she wants to continue seeing me and I’m bumming out. She keeps changing the subject but I keep going back to it. She tells me that she’s ok being single. I wanted to keep talking to her but she had asked earlier if I just wanted her to drive me home. I said no but even though we kinda made up I asked her anyways a little later bc it appeared that I wasn’t gonna get to sleep. So she drives me home at 2am. We both said we don’t wanna stop fucking and she tells me it won’t be the last time we’ll see each other.
Next day she deletes me off of facebook bc she didn’t want me trippin and saying shit on there. I told her I wasn’t even though I never slept the night before. Things ended up being fine. We talked the next morning and she informs me her daughter deleted me off of facebook bc of the not having much patience for kids comment. On a side note this woman I’m seeing is 37, I’m 25 and the daughter who’s 1 of 4 other kids is 19.
But now we get to today. I told her that I’ve realized that while I’m not happy being single I’m not ready for a relationship. I need to find a new place to stay and really concentrate on school. I was also pretty clingy with this chick. I haven’t been the clingy type since I was a fucking sophomore in high school. I post this on facebook and she gets mad about it and deletes me again. Won’t return my call or really communicate with me about the subject.
One night we decide to slow things down and not even a week later we’re fighting over something stupid. I really want a relationship with this woman but I’m starting to question is this gonna be worth it later on. I hope you can help.
you’re closer to her daughter’s age than her age.
Maybe you could get them both in a 3 way mom daughter combo… ultimate fantasy!!!
Late,
grmpysmrf
Yeah, I’m not gonna pussyfoot around, Bro. Your “relationship” ain’t gonna work out. You’re 25 and looking for a good time and some emotional fulfillment and she’s 37 and looking for someone to meet a number of needs (not just of the crotchal variety) that you can’t or won’t fulfill.
She’s got kids. Kids are a pain in the ass. She wants someone who will support her with these ass pains and lessen the burden, not wash his hands of it and only enjoy the fruits of the relationship without putting in the labor. When you told her you didn’t have patience with kids you instantly removed yourself from the “future potential” column in her book and put yourself into the “only call if I’m desperate and need to be poked to feel special” column. But she’ll never be able to fully compartmentalize the two in her head. She knows you’re “a piece of crap” in her brain but she’s a woman and in her heart she thinks that the magic of her womanly woman parts are going to somehow cast a magic spell on you and turn you into something you’re not. This will just cause continued aggravation for both of you.
You’ll either stand your ground and she’ll find ways to make you miserable or you’ll puss out and just fake like you give a crap about all the crap that she wants you to care about so you can escape the drama . . . .this will also make you miserable.
So, unless you want to be miserable, cut your losses and get out of Dodge.
Now, onto the Facebook thing (I’m treating this as separate). You got no business posting stuff about your relationship on Facebook. That’s retarded and fruitless. If you want my honest opinion about Facebook . . . . don’t ever tell a woman you even have one. Use only fake names and keep your profiles as locked down and private as possible (with a picture of Donald Duck or something as your avatar).
She’s got a 19 year old daughter. She deals with stupid teenage drama all the time. When you do stupid crap on FB or elsewhere it’s just a wretched reminder to her that she’s dating a boy toy who is not what she ultimately needs in terms of “maturity” and “responsibility” and all that other crap. She’ll feel embarrassed and guilty about this and she’ll take it out on you.
Now, you’ll ultimately do whatever you feel like doing, but if you don’t want the drama and you want to do the right thing for this broad, delete her off Facebook, delete her from your phone, tell her it’s over, and get on with your life and get to rolling around with twenty-somethings with similar goals or lack thereof.
I hope this helps,
Gunnar
Did you make that up or did you steal it from a Maury Povich episode? Seriously though, move on and find a girl who is younger than you are so that when you are old you will still have some hot hoochie instead of some old hag with a retarded nephew.
HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
This too.
Yeah that shit was seriously gay, dawg.,
I pretty much have given up. I’m having my friend who hooked us up talk to her to see what she says. Kinda middle school of me but that’s pretty much gonna seal the deal right there. See I’m not just looking for a good time. I’ve been single for 9 years and it hasn’t always been by choice. I ain’t at the point of desperation but when ur single that long the lonliness really gets to you. It sure has gotten to me. I finally meet a hot chick who understands me and I pretty much go and fuck it up as you said. I’m a sucker for the whole mom thing. My mom died when I was 11. The lady will remain annonymous but her and I moved hella fast. I ain’t in love with her but I do have love for her. This isn’t the first time I’ve fucked things up with a woman either.
Onto the whole going for chicks my age or younger. Idk too many chicks my own age but I’ll tell you most of the younger ones I meet don’t fucking get it. As far as I’m concerned you don’t really start growing up til you hit ur mid 20’s. It’s sad but part of the reason I’m going to college is to meet chicks. I only took one class this semester and it was a total sausage fest. Plus most of the chicks at my school are foreign exchange students from japan that only hang out with other asians. I chase after older women partly for the mom thing but also bc they have more experience in the sack. Why in the fuck would I want some young chick that doesn’t know what she’s doing? And if you ask why don’t I go out to bars or clubs to meet chicks: 1. I don’t have enough money. 2. I don’t like bars. There’s more reasons but those are the main 2 worth mentioning.
And finally we have the whole mother-daughter threesome. One’s not even legal. As for the 2 that are they really aren’t that cute. The 22 year old is with someone (I actually almost started a band with the guy). The 19 year old has double d’s but that’s about all she has going for her. Sorry but a big rack ain’t enough for me.
You have issues - but yours are focused on the maternal. Might want to have a consultation.
Seriously, it says something that you don’t care for kids - it kind of says you want to be the kid, in some odd roundabout way.
I’m not even over-analysing; it’s just how it reads.
Ur pretty much right. I’ve been looking to be mothered for 14 years and I finally found it. But then it slips away. Whatever. White Zinfandel is gonna be calling my name soon.
I’m 36 and single.
Ur pretty much right. I’ve been looking to be mothered for 14 years and I finally found it. But then it slips away.
ewww who wants to fuck their mom??
but seriously,
You didn’t find it. You found a close substitute but it’s not what you need… Gunnar pretty much nailed it. Move on.
The more time you spend trying to make this work the harder it will be to leave when things get get severely fucked up I.E. When even you know you should leave! Also, what sacrifices is she having to make in this relationship? sounds like all of the sacrifices are on your end.
Bolt out now before you invest anymore time with her… Unless you can change your mindset and keep it strictly physical and not care when it’s gone.
37 year old with 22 and 19 year old daughters, giving birth at 15 and 18 huh? one of the few girls that have 2 kids by the time they finish high school. If anything, this lady is looking to be a kid again herself, since she was done being a child at pretty much the start of her teens, which is probably why you are fucking her now.
oh the irony, you are looking for mommy and she’s looking to be a kid.
Late,
grmpysmrf
ewww who wants to fuck their mom?
Late,
grmpysmrf
I’ll answer this one…
I finally meet a hot chick who understands me and I pretty much go and fuck it up as you said. I’m a sucker for the whole mom thing. My mom died when I was 11. The lady will remain annonymous but her and I moved hella fast. I ain’t in love with her but I do have love for her. This isn’t the first time I’ve fucked things up with a woman either.
You need to stop thinking like this. I really don’t see that you “f***ed things up”. You just ain’t what she needs and she ain’t what you need. Pretty simple math, Dude.
I chase after older women partly for the mom thing but also bc they have more experience in the sack. Why in the fuck would I want some young chick that doesn’t know what she’s doing? And if you ask why don’t I go out to bars or clubs to meet chicks: 1. I don’t have enough money. 2. I don’t like bars. There’s more reasons but those are the main 2 worth mentioning.
You’re kind of all over the place here. What’s important to you? Dating someone who’s really good at screwing or finding a stable and meaningful relationship. Because if the screwing is really that important, you’re probably going to be with mental cases most of the time (because the damaged ones tend to get pretty slutty).
And finally we have the whole mother-daughter threesome. One’s not even legal. As for the 2 that are they really aren’t that cute. The 22 year old is with someone (I actually almost started a band with the guy). The 19 year old has double d’s but that’s about all she has going for her. Sorry but a big rack ain’t enough for me.
The fact that you’re even evaluating the daughters on such a level kinda shows you ain’t the one.
Honestly, I don’t think a relationship is what you need right now. Work on being comfortable in your own skin first and then you might actually be able to contribute something meaningful to a relationship if and when you meet a girl that you can see eye-to-eye with.
Get a degree, get a job, get a cool suit, and then you can have your pick of attractive, smart, goal-oriented women who won’t have giant trunkloads of baggage. Heck, you might even find one who’s really good at humping.
25 is young, Bro. Don’t be in such a hurry.
I told her we should have space for a little while. My friend told me she bitched about me and said she’s done. I imagine she is and doesn’t know how to break it. Idk why I’m still holding on. Yeah the sex is some of the best I’ve ever had and likewise for her but that’s probably all it’s gonna be. At the end of the convo (after she got pissed off again and then we made up) I asked when she’ll wanna see me again. She said at this rate who knows. I replied with I hope it ain’t too long but I think I pretty much need to walk away. The thing is Idk exactly what I want right now. I just don’t wanna feel alone anymore.
I’m sorry if my problem made this thread a downer. Here’s a better question: Any word on the new COF album with Erie Load as the producer?
I told her we should have space for a little while. My friend told me she bitched about me and said she’s done. I imagine she is and doesn’t know how to break it.
If this doesn’t scream immaturity, I don’t know what does. A 37 year old adult with 3 kids who doesn’t know how to break up with someone or even communicate…
The thing is Idk exactly what I want right now. I just don’t wanna feel alone anymore.
Nothing wrong with not knowing what you want right now. Just treat this like a job. When you’re unhappy with your job you continue to go to that job but you look for another line of work. So continue to fuck this chick but know its not going to last and actively seek another more compatable person.
The problem with not wanting feel alone is that it’s desperation and desperation will lead you into making really shitty decisions.
Late,
grmpysmrf
Dear Gunnar…
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Why?
Thanx again guys. I admit there were some comments I wasn’t too thrilled to read but I feel a little better about the whole thing.
Anyways I second what Peligro asked.
Oh man. That pic. It’s in my head.
GODDAMN IT’S MOTHERFUCKING FRIDAY!!!
Eureka, dude, I know exactly where you’re coming from. My first few girlfriends were my age, and I wound up hating ‘em because they were all insecure, AND my relationship with my ma was nonexistent (that didn’t happen till I was like 21), so I kinda figured fuck the drama, fuck the junkies, fuck the daddy issues, fuck all that noise and hook up with someone who one, knows what they want, and two, can make me feel like I matter. When I was nineteen, I hooked up with a 34-year-old black MILF with two kids, fresh out of a divorce. She was fuckin’ amazing for a second, until I started seeing the same bullshit again and again and realized the desperation went both ways and I said “Screw that.” I broke up with her, and she CRIED. Definitely the right call.
What I’m saying is that age is just a number, for both of the extremes. Sure, the older ones know what to do and still wanna do it, if ya know what I mean, but damaged goods will always BE damaged goods. You didn’t do anything wrong. In fact, just having the ability to say “Hey, I think I screwed up, lemme see what other people think” is pretty killer. Lots of people don’t gain that amount of introspective power until the damage is already done and half their paycheck goes to the ex-wife and kids.
You aight, homes. Hang in there, blow off some steam, crank some tunes, get together with homies, enjoy that friggin’ zinfandel. Life is good.
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WHY THE FUCK DON’T I LIVE NEXT TO EVERYONE ON THIS BOARD. I’d be over at your place with a six-pack and a night of drunken stories, no question.