So, it’s that time of the year. Family members graduating from high school. Now my family member, whom I am close to and quite protective of, she brings her dickhead boyfriend over and he brings his brother. Well, I see a beer on the table where they all are watching television. I know they aren’t legal to drink so I ask who is the one drinking. My relative’s boyfriend’s brother responds with, “I’m 21ish… almost 21.” In a smartass tone and doesn’t even look at me while speaking.
Call me old fashioned but if you come into my place you introduce yourself. He didn’t. You DO NOT take any beer outta the fridge unless you ask. You DO NOT touch the beer if you are under 21 (“21ish” my ass. I should have gotten abrasive but I didn’t wanna fuck up my family’s day. It ain’t about me).
So, a little advice would be nice or at least what would you guys do? I’m pushing into a rage and at the point to baiting the fucker with his tribal tattoos into a fight if he wants to be a wise ass. I expect the same sort of respect I give to other people and especially when I am in their house. I can obviously legally drink but I’d never touch someone’s beer unless I get an okay first.
Thought? Opinions? Suggestions? Guy is being a dick in my home with my family around and today has fuck all to do with the wannabe tough guy.
Taking someone else’s beer is the rub surely cos the 21 age limit is just stupid, I’d never hold that against anyone.
Make a fool of him but don’t be too obvious/forced about it. Think of some job that needs doing at the place and tell him in a not uncertain manner that he has to do it. I don’t get why a brother of a guy who’s going out with your relative is in your house. Is it just him you have beef with or the brother as well?
These guy sounds like he’s trying to (metaphorically) piss on your house. Least you can do is let it be known that he is being disrespectful to your family and get them to realise it. If the graduation day is over I wouldn’t worry about ruining anyone’s day
He has tribal tattoo’s?..that’s clearly grounds for justified murder…
This.
You had every right to kick the fucker out. I have been in a very similar situation with my cousin, who was staying over for a few weeks and brought uninvited - not to mention rude - guests into the house. I had to ask them to leave and they got belligerent. But I stood my ground. Then I gave my cousin a warning.
I think you should be pretty rough with him because the combination of those things is unacceptable.
A neutral but firm approach would have been to immediately grab the beer away.
If you do it now you’ll just look like a pansy. It’s like approaching a girl after locking eyes. You gotta do it right away.
Actually, anything you do now will make you look like a pansy. You consulted a message board for Christ sake. That means you’ve been punked by this punk.
You consulted a message board for Christ sake. That means you’ve been punked by this punk.
Didn’t you see the title? “advice from non retards” that’s why he doesn’t know what to do… he’s knows better than to listen to himself.
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I’d give him a nudge. Nothing too subtle, but i’d definitely try to put my point across. A dirty look could go a long way. Watch him like a hawk for a little while. Fuck with the guy. He goes to the fridge, follow him. He takes another beer, take it and say thanks. And i’d also say something along the lines of “you’re 21-ish. The store’s that way”.
He sounds like a little cunt, trying to act like a big man and impress people. Obviously you’re not impressed, and neither would i be. I’d be very pissed off too.
To be honest, i’m a non-confrontational kind of person, so i’d just set your family member straight and tell her in no uncertain terms that she is not to bring this fuck to your place ever again, and your stuff is not to be touched by her asshole pals.
Fuck that jazz, he sounds like an absolute arsehole, but you don’t want to cause any major problems within your family by punching the little prick out either, so that would be my suggestion, tell her you don’t want them back or next time you won’t be accountable for what happens to them.
lol you guys must be joking? a teenager stole a beer at a party, so what? it’s what kids do. what a bunch of hard asses.
Has nothing to with being a hard ass. I’m far from it. It’s more of a “do I look like a bitch” kind of thing. Because you let a guy like that go, he’ll get the impression that you must not care and that he can just have at it. It’s avoiding that possible outcome that i’d consider concerning.
I think it’s more the fact that an uninvited guest stole from him and tried to be a smart cunt about it. Would you be happy if some snotty kid drank your beer, in your house, where you didn’t invite him, and then tried to be funny in front of his friends at your expense? I doubt any of us would be laughing that off.
I don’t think it was a party of any sort (Atom can correct me if I’m wrong). I think they were just chilling before or after a graduation thing. The kid was a prick and tried to cop a badass attitude.
I don’t care if you’re 10 years old or your 80 years old. You go to someone’s house as a guest you show the host respect. You NEVER take stuff out of the fridge or cupboards without asking. The fact that he was underage just makes it worse because it puts the host in a very awkward situation (technically “serving alcohol to minors” or some crap).
The earlier comments were right in that you can’t really do anything about it now, but your rage is completely justified. I would suggest, as others have noted, that if that ever happened again that you nip it in the bud. Perhaps a really obvious comment like, “You know, in most societies it’s customary for a guest to ask permission before taking things that don’t belong to him.” If he gives you attitude still, you point to the door and tell him to march.
It sounds like this was a unique situation and that the particular combo of guests wouldn’t be at your place again anyway, but if the girl does plan on bringing her douche crew with her again, I would tell her straight up that if one of those pricks pulls such a move again they will never set foot in your door again.
I think it was Void that said you got punked by the punk, and I’m sure that’s what makes it the most aggravating. It’s one of those situations that, because of the particulars of the occasion, you were caught off guard and didn’t know how to react . . . the little prick got to act like Capt. Badass and probably bragged to his other tribal tattooed buddies about it. That will haunt you for a while. So don’t let them do it again.
And yes . . . . more importantly, tribal tats ARE grounds for immediate execution.